I don’t need anyone. – most of us with bpd feel convinced that no one cares about us or love us. We find it hard to trust that people genuinely want to help us.
Also we find closeness intimidating. Whenever we get close to someone, we have the intense fear that soon that person will abandon us. That’s why we try to convince ourselves as well as others that we don’t need anyone. We are better and happy alone.
I don’t care- We are highly sensitive people. We are so turned on toward our senses and gestures. Most of our lives we have spent reading the expressions of others. For many of us, this is how we predicted what our abuser is planning and how to act in his/ her presence.
So yes, we feel emotions intensely and we care so much that it almost chokes and drowns us.
Saying that we don’t care is a defense mechanism we use to cut off ourselves from the situation before it hurts .
I am fine- If you ask us. Most of the times our reply would be ,we are fine. We are okay. I would say that even when I am contemplating suicide or self harm. Reason- we feel that we are not worthy of attention, we are a burden and the toxic Shame of not feeling okay .
Self harm- we cut, purge, burn and harm ourselves. This is not about attention. When the emotions and turmoil becomes too much. It looks like the only release. It’s a short term risky solution to release that emotional pain. I have self harmed because in that moment it feels the only way out to escape the mental pain. To distract it away with the physical pain.
Emotional detachment/ dissociation- when the emotions spiral out or become too overwhelming. We sometimes end up dissociating. At that stage, I become completely detached , cold and numb. The responses become automatic , whatever is happening feels like it’s happening to others and I am just an outside observer. Most of the times dissociation happens on its own accord as a response to the immediate event that may be traumatic to process.
That was really interesting insight into the experience of someone with BPD. Thanks for sharing and raising awareness about your experience of the world!
first learned about this when i saw the movie of angelina jolie and forgot the name of that pretty actress. indeed Such condition exist and someone which such condition need is respect and space.
I have a family member with BPD and it manifests itself in lost of different ways and she does a lot of these behaviours, I’d love to help her when I become more experienced in my practise. Thank you for sharing!
I feel so bad for anyone feeling alone with this disorder. It’s ok to feel these feeling but I hope professional counseling and maybe joining groups with similar disorders help one not feel so alone.
Thank you for sharing your life with all of us! This helps people without Borderline personality disorder understand why you may act, react, etc and also helps those with the disorder feel comforted by knowing that they are not alone! Great post.
I have BPD. Thank you for sharing how it affects you. The more of us who speak out, the more life around us becomes more educated. We can be embraced instead of part of a stigma.
I’ve found that strong faith in a mentor or belief system can lead to self belief. Stoicism and Buddhism are about gaining control of your mind through faithfully believing that you can. I can vouch for this. Be patient. Give yourself time but be determined to win over your thoughts. Genuine self love is the belief that you can despite your fears be of great use to society. It is arduous work and the most rewarding too. Affective empathy can be crippling and counter productive to social good. But the suffering is like a portal where you come out riding the monster instead of letting it kill you. Eckhart Tolle is a great example of a person whose sufferings and overwrought mind led him to being a source of positive healing. Jordan Peterson, youtuber einzelganger, the diamond net on you tube….good places.
You hit the nail on the head with all of these comments and thoughts. I’ve suffered from BPD for years and have been through every one, multiple times. However as time advances I’m finding it easier to navigate. Hope you have the support you need.
It’s hard to have that. I have bipolar and I have to constantly remind myself that most of the time, it’s all in my head. Hugs to you.
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You do a good job writing about things like that. It for sure made me think about things.
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Great article, good job writing about things like that 🙂
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That was really interesting insight into the experience of someone with BPD. Thanks for sharing and raising awareness about your experience of the world!
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The hardest one is to say fine when you are not. My friend does that all the time when even we know that is not ok.
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Im sorry that you have that. Thanks for opening up about it! You are a warrior!
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first learned about this when i saw the movie of angelina jolie and forgot the name of that pretty actress. indeed Such condition exist and someone which such condition need is respect and space.
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I’ve met people who suffer from this as well and it’s not easy. The mood swings are what hurt them the most.
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I absolutely love your writing style it’s so poignant. And you tackled this sensitive topic with heart.
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I have a family member with BPD and it manifests itself in lost of different ways and she does a lot of these behaviours, I’d love to help her when I become more experienced in my practise. Thank you for sharing!
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Self care and understanding are so important for those of us who suffer from mental disorders.
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I feel so bad for anyone feeling alone with this disorder. It’s ok to feel these feeling but I hope professional counseling and maybe joining groups with similar disorders help one not feel so alone.
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Thank you for sharing your life with all of us! This helps people without Borderline personality disorder understand why you may act, react, etc and also helps those with the disorder feel comforted by knowing that they are not alone! Great post.
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Thanks for sharing your story with us. I am sure that is hard to write about this, but it might help others to understand this better.
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Great job at writing and explaining all about BPD. It’s nice for people to know more about this so they would know what to do.
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I have BPD. Thank you for sharing how it affects you. The more of us who speak out, the more life around us becomes more educated. We can be embraced instead of part of a stigma.
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So true.
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Love this I got bpd
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Thank you.
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They’re all accurate. I’ve found that some of it has gotten easier with time and learning…
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I’ve found that strong faith in a mentor or belief system can lead to self belief. Stoicism and Buddhism are about gaining control of your mind through faithfully believing that you can. I can vouch for this. Be patient. Give yourself time but be determined to win over your thoughts. Genuine self love is the belief that you can despite your fears be of great use to society. It is arduous work and the most rewarding too. Affective empathy can be crippling and counter productive to social good. But the suffering is like a portal where you come out riding the monster instead of letting it kill you. Eckhart Tolle is a great example of a person whose sufferings and overwrought mind led him to being a source of positive healing. Jordan Peterson, youtuber einzelganger, the diamond net on you tube….good places.
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I love this as I am a borderline as well
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You hit the nail on the head with all of these comments and thoughts. I’ve suffered from BPD for years and have been through every one, multiple times. However as time advances I’m finding it easier to navigate. Hope you have the support you need.
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